Work-life balance isn’t a myth or something you ‘might achieve’ sometime in the future. It’s achievable right now, but that achievement can come with its own set of struggles.
When I left the corporate world it was because I wanted to be my own boss. The main reason for that? Like many of you reading this, it was for work-life balance – so I could spend more time with my wife and children. I didn’t want to miss out on their important life events.
The fatherly work-life balance thing came together quickly … and brought with it an incredible set of advantages. But I still found a few things really hard to shake: deeply ingrained habits from my past career.
Like these three:
The lack of corporateness
Oddly enough I struggle with not wearing a suit. It feels strange to be in casual clothes each day and I actually find myself really enjoying meetings in Sydney when I can wear a shirt and tie!
The working hours
Yes I love the flexibility that flying solo gives but I still find myself feeling guilty whenever I stop work at 4pm (even though I may have started that day at 7am!).
Sometimes it’s also lonely.
Working on public holidays when it seems everyone else is having a ‘day off’ tends to bring this feeling on. There are no after work drinks anymore either!
How do I get over the above?
Rationally I am very aware that the benefits of running your own business completely outweigh the bad. I do, however, find that weaknesses and covetous thoughts need to be owned and worked through. Here’s how I process the above:
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Drop the guilt
If you started work at 5am and it’s now 3pm, it should be pretty obvious that it’s ok to go and pick your children up from school.
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Have a day in the city
: Put a suit on, venture into the city, have a meeting, spend a fortune on lunch, get stuck in traffic. That’ll instantly cure you of that particular hang-up!
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Remember why
At the end of the day, I’m in business to be a family man. It’s easy for that to get lost in the noise.
Do you miss anything about your old corporate job? Has your work-life balance improved?