Making love and making money

Sam Leader

Us writers delight in the use of analogies and what better subject to choose than love making?

During the lunch break at a recent Flying Solo director’s meeting, I cooked up the notion that the role money plays in a business is not dissimilar to the role intimacy plays in your primary relationship.

As I said to Robert and Peter at this stage of the conversation: bear with me.

It’s arguable that love making in a partnership and money in a business are:

- A measure of success.
- An expression of success.
- A gauge for how healthy the overall partnership/business is.

They each play a central, perhaps even defining, role. Also while desirable, each, when chased too hard, has a tendency to remain outside your grasp.

But on their own, money/intimacy are not enough to sustain a business/relationship. They are part of a bigger picture.

For example, in order to flourish relationships need to offer both individuals a sense of trust, respect and emotional fulfilment.

Meanwhile businesses need to be underpinned by values, present opportunities for growth, provide a sense of purpose and fulfil a need in the market.

Personally, too, I’d need to find any relationship or business I was involved with good fun.

Perhaps when these other factors are in sync in your business/relationship, they can help attract money/loving your way.

What do you think of my coffee shop philosophy? Is my analogy a horribly long bow or is it on the money? Also, what other factors do you think contribute to a healthy relationship or business?

Let us know your thoughts.

Until next time.

Love your work,

Sam

Sam Leader is a director of Flying Solo and its editor. She is the co-author of Flying Solo - How to go it alone in business.

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I don't think it is too long a bow. I know which is feels better and is more fun though!
Other elements: good communication (speaking the same language - not the same as agreeing), getting the chores done in mutually acceptable ways. Evan Hadkins from Sydney, Australia
put the love back into business and work is what I say too...nice one! nic beames from perth
I agree with you Sam, I think that a similar amount of effort is required for both. Good one Deanne Lyall from Broken Hill
I have 15 years of marriage under my belt, and it is hard work. It is fufilling, rewarding, and exciting journey, and without the love of hubby & kids I literally do not think I would be able to breathe. However it is hard work. I have 5 years under my belt as a soloist. It too has been a fufilling, rewarding, and exciting journey, and it too is hardwork. It is foolish to think either can be achieved without dedication focus and hardwork. Heather Smith from Brisbane
Hi Sam - I've been married for 38 years and a soloist for 8. I've found that my marriage has taken on a different perspective with passing years and that one of the greatest benefits still is having the ability to talk to each other on a whole range of things. Too many tmes I've seen couples of our age sitting looking 'blank' in a restaurant or coffee shop with seemingly nothing to say to each other. Much the same with the business...you've got to 'talk' to it AND to your customers otherwise it all gets too cold...... Geoff Roberts from lake cathie NSW
Hi Sam
I recently lost my partner of 37 years, and am now "courting" a new partner, our conversations are stimulating and her encourage ment to find out and hel me in my solo ventures is inspirong me to new highs, so yes I defineately agree with your point
Tony Tony Turner from Midland, WA

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