The Proper Job – do you miss it?

The Proper Job Sam LeaderRecently, I met up with two friends, both of whom have secured excellent jobs. Their eyes shone excitedly as they told me about their new roles and I succumbed to an unfamiliar emotion… jealousy.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not about to go all employed on you, it’s just that for a time after we met, the following went through my mind:

“Why can’t I have a boss to tell me when I’m doing a great job?”
“Why can’t someone else tell me what to do, instead of me having to figure it out all the time?”
"Why can’t I get paid good money, even when I’m having a slack day?”
“Why can’t I have the structure, security and predictability of a proper job?”

Occasionally feeling this way is understandable, I reckon. After all, it’s hard work being the organ grinder and the monkey. It’s not easy motivating yourself, day after day and being so darn responsible for every one of your actions.

While it’s true my faith was shaken, I’m guessing (hoping!) I’m not alone at these lapses into laziness. There are some days when I just want to take a step back from the front line… these are the days I find myself nostalgic for the apparently low hanging fruit of a normal 'proper' job.

I’m genuinely happy for my friends, and am hoping their roles will give them the elusive double of stimulation and security. But I know deep down that the likelihood is that once the novelty has gone, the excitement will fade and a sense of drudgery will creep in.

So even though I may occasionally wonder whether the grass is greener having a proper job, I know that ultimately, soloism is the only course for me. In fact I’m with the numerous people in this community who’ve claimed in comments and forum posts that they’re essentially unemployable.

Do you sometimes struggle to stay the course? How do you get back on track when you get the wobbles? Let us know.

Love your work,

Sam Leader
sam@flyingsolo.com.au
www.flyingsolo.com.au

Published 16 June 2009  

Sam Leader is a director of Flying Solo and its editor. She is the co-author of Flying Solo - How to go it alone in business.

 

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  • Hi Sam,
    It's a strange thing being in small business and as you say there are times when not having to be the master of everything that goes on could be a very nice thought indeed.
    My biggest challenges is learning and understanding certain aspects that I am not familiar with for example marketing which is so important and then deciding if the timing is right to introduce new products and the worst of course is justifying price increases.
    Personally I find that sometimes it is quite hard to stay focused and often realise how far I have drifted away from the target - of course being employed you know that you have one target not the whole business circle to concern yourself with so that can sound alluring and also knowing that regardless of your input and outcome your $$$'s are still going to be banked for you.
    On reflection, I definitely feel it's all okay I am happy with my circumstances and think I would rather be in my small business not stressed by someone else's demands. Plus no-one can make me redundant!
    Cheers have a great week everyone.
    Vanessa from CQ

  • Hi Sam,
    You're certainly not alone - I believe every soloist get wobbly.
    To counter these feelings when & especially I'm getting too bogged in the day-to-day , I give myself a "Murdoch Day". What would Rupert do?
    Most all of my best ideas & insights come from getting my head out of the day-to-day & into the clouds.
    It feel likes being 2 people - the strategist & then the implementer.
    I also remember the comments of a former boss & now good friend.
    "I wish I had the guts & skill to be more like you & do it for myself".
    In recent times our team has grown somewhat, but I'll always be a soloist at heart.
    Rod
    Rod Tanks from London for a while

  • Thanks Sam,
    After I start feeling robotic or 'wobbly', I schedule some sort of treat! It could be a new gadget, a catch up with someone interesting; or more recently some exercise.
    I know, if I don't reward me, the Universe won't. I even recently written a book, to keep me on a track of motivation!
    Danny Beran from Sydney; Australia

  • I like the idea of a Murdoch day, the thought that even the best business people have bad days makes me feel a bit better about things when I am low.
    Having everyone come to you and expect you to have the answers, thats also quite hard, Im getting good at faking confidence.
    Adam Randall from Adelaide

  • It's always comforting to know that even the most successful business people have their wobbly days! To help myself I've created a "wonderwall" of inspirational quotes in my office. The one in the centre says: "why am I doing this?" Whenever I have a wobble, that's usually the first one I zone in on. Asking myself that question reminds me loud and clear that I'm going solo because it means I'm not restricted by anyone else's agenda, lack of creativity, lack of motivation or passion, I have the freedom to work when I want, where I want and take my business in any direction I choose. It's fabulous and I wouldn't swap it for anything in the world and I think the low moments provide us with the opportunity to stop and remind ourselves just how lucky we are :) Karen Moloney from Cronulla

  • I was apprehensive at first how was I going to cope with not having the regular monthly income and interaction with the business world. Yet, I am healthier, less stressed, more productive, more positive, choose my own course, follow my goals & ambitions and have free time to do what I want whenever I want. I am more motivated than I have ever been. I am doing volunteer work, that is opening doors and bringing in rewards in other ways. I am not exhausted mentally & physically and have more time for my family & friends. I remember a friend saying hey remember we are all working to do what you are doing now! Wendy from Goolwa

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