Productivity / Problem solving

“Shove it, Jack, I’m walking out the door!”

“Stick at it!” “Don’t give up!” “If at first you don’t succeed, try and try again!” While dogged persistence is generally a trait to be admired, there are times when bowing out is a far better option. Not to mention a whole lot more fun.

3 September 2012 by

A couple of memorable moments from my career are times when I’ve thrown in the towel and turned my back on what might be described as ‘perfectly good jobs’.

The resignation

My now wife and I had moved interstate for jobs that sounded great on the surface, but ultimately made us miserable. After a year of whinging, and watching Sigrid Thornton on Sea Change on Sunday nights, we decided that enough was enough and drafted the resignation letters.

It wasn’t quite the classic take-that-job-and-stick-it scenario, but I vividly remember the feeling of freedom and elation as we packed up the purple Ford Festiva and hit the Great Ocean Road with nowhere to be, no timeframes, no employment and no permanent address.

The refusal

A few years later, after I’d just started my copywriting business, I was excited to have been offered an ideal web copywriting job – a global car brand with potential for ongoing work. But there was a catch. It was late December and they needed a large site live by early January. This would have meant working through the Christmas break and during a planned family holiday. After initially feeling like I would be a fool to turn down such a great opportunity, I slept on it and made the rash decision to just say no.

"Don’t forget that not everything can be fixed and not everything is worth fixing. Sometimes you’ve just got to bite the bullet and walk away."

The relief was instant, and it was the very first time I realised the blissful freedom and control that can really only come from working for yourself.

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The no @#$hole rule

I first heard this idea from a veteran ad man who, sick of dealing with unreasonable people, decided that he would never again work with anyone he didn’t like. The result, he said, was more enjoyable and more profitable work. I’ve since tried to apply this rule wherever possible. Life’s too short to try and please energy sappers. Just say no.

When it comes to partnerships, relationships, clients and jobs, a long-term approach is by and large the way to go. But don’t forget that not everything can be fixed and not everything is worth fixing. Sometimes you’ve just got to bite the bullet and walk away.

As the long-suffering women in Paul Kelly’s classic song “To her door” says to her drop-kick partner, “Shove it, Jack, I’m walking out the [email protected] door.”

Do you have any satisfying resignation or quitting stories? We’d love to hear them.

Peter Crocker

is a director of Flying Solo responsible for marketing and advertising. As a business copywriter he partners with digital agencies and corporate clients on websites and digital content. He’s the co-author of Flying Solo Revisited – How to go it alone in business.

Comments

  • I have a theory that we soloist have a fair share of grit. Passion and perseverance for long-term vision. I think that when our passion and our perseverance are misaligned with the wrong vision, then that’s when magnificent resignations can happen. Like in your example of the job over the Christmas break – it meant putting your family second, which sounds like was not in line with your values and therefore your vision for your life. So the answer was no. Similarly, the no a$$h0le rule is a long-term vision of sorts – to create a positive and constructive work-life without negativity from certain personality traits. So, my thoughts are that working a ‘regular’ job or being a soloist or doing whatever you do can be great so long as the passion + perseverance + vision equation lines up. Though with that said – it’s easier to align work with our vision when it’s our own business, as opposed to someone else’s!

    • Hi Laura, thanks so much for reading and taking the time to comment. I’ve done more thinking on this since I wrote this article I totally agree with you that once you have a vision in place for your life and business (who’s around you, what you’re doing, how you’re feeling, purpose etc) it becomes easier to then make decisions based on that vision. Does this job/partner/project/person get me closer to my long term vision. If not, saying ‘no’ is easier and becomes a strategic decision rather than a soft option. I looove your phrase of ‘magnificent resignation’! It sums it up and sounds so much better than quitting 🙂 Thanks again, Peter

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