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    RichLucas
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    One thing I’ll admit to having a constant battle with is forming new habits and continuing to observe them in the long-term. Thankfully I don’t have any terribly bad ones, but I’m really coming up against some internal barriers now that are holding me and my business back. For example, I know I should pick up the phone and call people or get out and meet new people more often, but in the past I just haven’t done it. I wouldn’t say I’m a 100% introvert but the tendency and back-story certainly lean that way.

    If you’ve managed to break an old habit &/or replace it with a new one, what was it and how did you do it? Did you invent your own strategy, follow someone else’s, use a commercial product to help etc.?

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    Dave Gillen – FS Concierge
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    Hi [USER=66557]@RichLucas[/USER],

    I’ve recently put in place some accountability partners, and it’s keeping me a lot more focused and it’s harder for me to skip those important jobs I’d normally procrastinate on.

    It also forces you to more clearly define what task needs to be done, and when it’ll be done, which alone moves you a lot closer to doing it.

    Dave

    Dave Gillen - Client Acquisition | Brisbane | (07) 3180 0288
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    RichLucas
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    FS Forum Support, post: 225502, member: 49676 wrote:
    Hi [USER=66557]@RichLucas[/USER],

    I’ve recently put in place some accountability partners, and it’s keeping me a lot more focused and it’s harder for me to skip those important jobs I’d normally procrastinate on.

    It also forces you to more clearly define what task needs to be done, and when it’ll be done, which alone moves you a lot closer to doing it.

    Dave

    That’s a great idea Dave, and I’m pleased it’s working out for you.

    How did you decide on the partners that you chose?

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    Dave Gillen – FS Concierge
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    I found them through an (online) entrepreneurial group I’m part of – I put the call out for someone who wanted to take accountability seriously, and we’re catching up via skype.

    If you put the word out on Flying Solo (for example) there’s a good chance you’ll attract someone like-minded.

    Dave

    P.S. In the last 3 discussions I’ve had about accountability, contacting people or companies (i.e. sales) was the thing that the person was stuck on every time. :)

    Dave Gillen - Client Acquisition | Brisbane | (07) 3180 0288
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    RichLucas
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    Thanks again Dave, I’ll pursue that idea for sure. And I guess I’m not alone then!

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    Warren Cottis
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    Hello Richard

    I second Dave’s comments but it doesn’t have to be complicated.

    You can pick anyone who will have a mindset to keep you Focused.

    Even that retired person who needs a Mission

    Setting a date for the next call from that person works wonders

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    RichLucas
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    Warren Cottis, post: 225540, member: 129 wrote:
    Hello Richard

    I second Dave’s comments but it doesn’t have to be complicated.

    You can pick anyone who will have a mindset to keep you Focused.

    Even that retired person who needs a Mission

    Setting a date for the next call from that person works wonders

    Thanks Warren, it turns out with a very small amount of creative thinking I realised that the perfect person had been in my thoughts for a while – a fellow entrepreneur who is at this point more commercially successful and has some standout qualities that I aspire to. And they accepted, so we’re off!

    They even knew what an accountability partner was so a few steps in front of me…

    #1191930
    shart
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    Hi there,

    this was a small change but one thats had such a great impact. I simply switched from coffee to warm lemon water. I think the best way to start a new habit is to try and remove anything that reminds you of old habits. I got rid of my instant coffee mix and the milk. So when morning did come, I had no choice but to drink something else. I followed it for a month consciously and then it became a routine. Lemon water does wonders for your skin, weight and overall health so its great!

    Good luck!

    #1191931
    katinns
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    For me I found that creating and keeping to rituals is the best way to be productive. For example in my BD job I make 10 calls every morning starting at 9AM.
    If you are interested I posted a short article here. The other resource worth checking out, especially on habits, is at jamesclear.com

    Hope that’s useful

    #1191933
    Cody
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    There are some great people out there who write and talk about habits. Try James Clear.

    For straight up, no BS discipline, have a listen to the Jocko Willink Podcast. Start with his second podcast on the Tim Ferriss Show (Episode #187). Worth following on Twitter too. He has also written a book called ‘Extreme Ownership’ which I found very useful.

    I started reading ‘Turning Pro’ by Steven Pressfield this morning. I’m paraphrasing but he said something to the effect of ‘Everyone has habits. It’s up to you to choose if you want to have amateur habits or professional habits.

    In summary, for me it’s about constantly surrounding myself with this sort of information. It’s kind of weird. I don’t know them personally, but I feel like if I don’t get out of bed at 5am every morning and exercise I am letting them down.

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    Paul – FS Concierge
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    Cody, post: 240338, member: 55612 wrote:
    There are some great people out there who write and talk about habits. Try James Clear.

    For straight up, no BS discipline, have a listen to the Jocko Willink Podcast. Start with his second podcast on the Tim Ferriss Show (Episode #187). Worth following on Twitter too. He has also written a book called ‘Extreme Ownership’ which I found very useful.

    I started reading ‘Turning Pro’ by Steven Pressfield this morning. I’m paraphrasing but he said something to the effect of ‘Everyone has habits. It’s up to you to choose if you want to have amateur habits or professional habits.

    In summary, for me it’s about constantly surrounding myself with this sort of information. It’s kind of weird. I don’t know them personally, but I feel like if I don’t get out of bed at 5am every morning and exercise I am letting them down.
    Wow, I am genuinely surprised you feel like you are letting those that inspire you down – the thought never occurred to me within the context of somebody I have never met.

    It is like having an accountability partner that only you know about :-)

    #1191935
    Cody
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    Paul – FS Concierge, post: 240371, member: 78928 wrote:
    Wow, I am genuinely surprised you feel like you are letting those that inspire you down – the thought never occurred to me within the context of somebody I have never met.

    It is like having an accountability partner that only you know about :)

    Yeah it’s strange isn’t it haha. Almost like if I were to sleep in they would be looking down on me shaking their heads!

    Owell, it works.

    #1191936
    russashby
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    Accountability partners have worked really well for me in the past, but something that has also made a big difference for me is making sure to use checklist during different stages of the day. For example, a checklist to start the day, a checklist to start the workday and so on. Like this, you make sure you complete the behaviors you want to make habits and checklists are a useful reminder that never forgets.

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    findtim
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    i’ve always been a heavy drinker, then a year ago i was walking down the street and said to myself ” i’m not going to drink anymore” , and i did ! no DT’s, no cravings, no headaches, no anger, no come down !
    i changed a habit in my mind, everything i did related to a drink, its hot, its friday, i just mowed the lawn, the footies on, we are going out, i just want to stay in…. etc.
    i didn’t look for a replacement i just switched to water and mineral water but then i saw joe cross, great aussie bloke, “reboot with joe” and his movie ” fat,sick and nearly dead” google him.
    you don’t have to be fat , sick and nearly dead to get the moral and it can be used in any form of habit breaking .
    its also not a diet,i weight within my BMI at 74kgs and have down for the last 30 years, stable weight no matter what i eat or drink.
    anyway, i changed my habit with a mind SHIFT.
    tim

    #1191938
    Roman K
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    RichLucas, post: 225489, member: 66557 wrote:
    For example, I know I should pick up the phone and call people or get out and meet new people more often, but in the past I just haven’t done it. I wouldn’t say I’m a 100% introvert but the tendency and back-story certainly lean that way.

    I used to be an introverted tech geek. You can’t stop me now from picking the phone and making calls. Here is what I have done to transform:

    1) You need to start LOVING sales. Full Stop

    2) To do that you need to learn a simple process below.

    3) Approach each and every call with one rule: to give massive value to the person on the other side. People buy from who they love & trust

    4) Use the technique most successful athletes apply: disassociate from the outcome. If your goal is to help people on the call it feels great. Doesn’t matter if you make a sale or not. What is the worst case scenario? You didn’t make a sale but changed someone’s life! Feels great, give you a lot of power

    5) Forget about closing techniques from 70s, 80s, and 90s. It doesn’t work in modern work where we are connected online.

    6) Introduce a powerful morning ritual that will set your day and will make you unstoppable for the rest of the day

    7) This is a very short summary.

    Let me know if you need more details. Happy to elaborate and share the full process I follow & how I put myself into this unstoppable cold and warm calling mindset. It works like a charm & couldn’t be happier to jump on the phone, mate.

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