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    tiamaria
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    Hi,

    I work from home and I’m tired of busting myself to hardly make any money. My online business makes good sales and has page 1 google rankings but I still see little money for myself as I put everything back into it to grow it. The business always pay’s for all it’s expenses and it’s loan payments but there is not much left for me.

    I’m really missing the time with my husband & my kids. I cant escape the computer and it’s affecting my relationships.

    I have a big loan on my business but I am seriously thinking of just closing the doors as of the new financial year and claiming the loss. I don’t know if I can carry on mentally and emotionally with it.

    I know the business would be saleable ( although not for what I owe on it ) but my paperwork is 2 years behind and it all just seems to much.

    I’m a little emotional as one of my friends has been diagnosed with terminal cancer. She is a young mum of kids like me and it just has me wondering about my priorities.

    Please, does any one have any advice for me?

    Thank you

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    morpheyous
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    Woa Tia Maria

    Hang in there Tia.

    I know where you are coming from, can u outsource any of your site work. You can hire a Filipino for peanuts who can run your site for you, freeing up your time, PM me for more info, but please do not give up, you will succeed just hang in there

    Pete

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    Anonymous
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    Hi Tia Maria,

    Sorry to hear that you’re having a tough time, and especially sorry to hear your friend’s news. :(

    Hopefully between the lot of us we’ll be able to help you come up with some ideas to enable you to grow your sales and/or spend less time creating them.

    Are there any specific areas that you’d like some help on?

    Jayne

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    Shaukat Adam Khalid
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    Sorry to hear about your challenges. My strongest advice is to read the following book.

    http://m.box.net/download/account/f_633384224/0/StickingPointSolution-D.pdf

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    Five Star PA
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    Hey there,

    I feel for you as at times these last few years I’ve often wondered myself. I work form home and am a self confessed work-a-holic and I find it really hard to walk away. In the end though it comes down to disipline and I found myself questioning if I was employed by someone I would just turn off now for the night and so I started to. It was like I had to break the habit of work work work. I started scheduling in a day a month where I ‘skipped’ work and man you feel like a whole new person. Maybe if you took the family away for a long weekend and skipped a day you’ll feel more of the balance of what the working for ourselves is meant to be about!

    I do agree, really take time out to see what you can outsource and you’ll probably be surprised by how much you can. Or is it possible just to cut back at al??

    I hope it works out for you.

    Meredith

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    Kathy Creaner
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    Hi

    First of all, congratulations on having a business that meets its expenses. Well done.

    While you’re making this really big decision about whether you keep going with your business, here’s something you can do for yourself and your family right now. It’s about looking after yourself, and it will pay off for your family too. It’s simple and easy.

    It’s the “Month of Me”. You promise yourself that every day you will do something just for yourself. It doesn’t have to cost money. In fact, sometimes it’s better that they don’t. What’s important is that you commit to doing something for yourself EVERY SINGLE DAY of the month.

    Examples of things that you can do are:
    1. Sit down and watch tv for 30 minutes without feeling guilty that you aren’t doing the dishes or working on your business
    2. Sit down and have a cup of coffee with your partner or a friend instead of rushing off somewhere (This was my best pay off. I still sometimes choose to have a cup of coffee with hubby instead of rushing off to work – he’s the soloist in the family)
    3. Take the time to put body lotion on
    4. Have a bubble bath
    5. Buy a magazine that you’d normally think of as a luxury or a timewaster (I bought Woman’s Day for the first time in years for the gossip)
    6. Dance like crazy to a favourite song (it will take 5 mins tops, and will make you feel great)
    7. Take the kids to the park or the dog for a walk and leave the phone at home

    You’ll be able to think of dozens!

    We’ve a new month starting on Friday, so make your list of things and make July your “Month of Me”.

    Kathy

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    wpmdigital
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    Hi Tiamaria,

    Sorry to hear this has been so overwhelming for you.

    It’s definitely harder to set boundaries with a solo business especially when the work is done at home. I don’t think I’ve been on a holiday for awhile where absolutely no work was done.

    It’s vital to set these boundaries for your own sanity though.

    What I’ve done myself is set up a separate phone line for business and only have that phone accessible via the office. That way if it rings out of hours, my voicemail will pick it up and I can deal with it this next day.

    Set yourself working hours eg. 9-6pm or even something a little less conventional like 8-12 then 3-7pm or something that works. Whatever it is just make it consistent.

    I’m not sure about you but I find myself eating meals at my work desk often. Try to take meals away from work. Time on yourself or with the family.

    And as the suggestions above, try to outsource where you can such as bookkeeping. Companies who specialise in working with small business usually have reasonable rates.

    Don’t forget to reward yourself. You’re an employee of your business and like any employee need to feel appreciated.

    Hang in there.

    My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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    Mumnesia
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    Kathy Creaner, post: 81327 wrote:
    Hi

    First of all, congratulations on having a business that meets its expenses. Well done.

    While you’re making this really big decision about whether you keep going with your business, here’s something you can do for yourself and your family right now. It’s about looking after yourself, and it will pay off for your family too. It’s simple and easy.

    It’s the “Month of Me”. You promise yourself that every day you will do something just for yourself. It doesn’t have to cost money. In fact, sometimes it’s better that they don’t. What’s important is that you commit to doing something for yourself EVERY SINGLE DAY of the month.

    Examples of things that you can do are:
    1. Sit down and watch tv for 30 minutes without feeling guilty that you aren’t doing the dishes or working on your business
    2. Sit down and have a cup of coffee with your partner or a friend instead of rushing off somewhere (This was my best pay off. I still sometimes choose to have a cup of coffee with hubby instead of rushing off to work – he’s the soloist in the family)
    3. Take the time to put body lotion on
    4. Have a bubble bath
    5. Buy a magazine that you’d normally think of as a luxury or a timewaster (I bought Woman’s Day for the first time in years for the gossip)
    6. Dance like crazy to a favourite song (it will take 5 mins tops, and will make you feel great)
    7. Take the kids to the park or the dog for a walk and leave the phone at home

    You’ll be able to think of dozens!

    We’ve a new month starting on Friday, so make your list of things and make July your “Month of Me”.

    Kathy

    I would say the identical to what Kathy has said

    so Don’t Don’t & Don’t some more!!
    Don’t leave a business that you have established, you will crucify yourself in 12 months time.
    12 months ago I was suffering the same. My best friend of 37 years lost her battle to breast cancer, I was going through an audit from hell (no thanks to my ex accountant, whom I murdered then felt remarkably better), my beautiful loving mother in law thought that being on this earth for 90 years was enough and decided to meet up with my fatherin law on the great golf course in the sky. Not to mention an overseas distributer collapsing taking all my business capital with it. ***sigh***
    Not a lot of inspiration to go on
    What is happening is thet you are suffering from life & business malnutrition. It happens with most soloists at some point in time if not nearly all the time, this is why these sites like Flying solo are so incredibly invaluable.
    For life malnutrition go straight back and re read Kathy’s suggestions, garrantee it will help. The dancing part is the best, it works a treat.
    For business malnutrition there are few things to keep in mind.
    1) how much can you outsource? Are you guilty of trying to do it all by yourself? Remember no person is an island.
    how old are your kids? mine loved helping me and once a week they would go spend some of their ‘wages’. Its the little niggly things taken away that can delete stress, what about family or friends? My mum offered to help for a week and ended up staying 5 years (I love my mum)
    2) remember that when you start a business, not only do you have to build that product or service, you also have to build the entire infrastructure to support that venture from the ground up as well. Its not an easy feat, but reflect back on how much you have developed, never forget to give yourself credit for the remarkable achievements you often forget about.
    3) daily To Do list. I cross off everything that gets done on that list, a new list for the next day with whats left over, but I acknowledge what has been done, not what hasn’t been done (A wonderful tip from a wise old soul)
    4) Time management or system management? A lot of times people struggle to get things done and look for ways to manage time, when really it might be a case of ‘a better way to do things”. I have learnt that a lot over the years, working smarter instead of harder.
    5) Sack yourself regularily. It worked so much for me. Take time out when you’re overwhelmed, you’re no good to the business anyway when you’re like that.
    6) Take a regular & scheduled RDO (rostered day off) and stick to it.
    7) Take daily time out in your day from the business, turn the answering machine on and spend it with your family. as the old adage says “No one on their deathbed has ever yet said, I wished I spent more time at the office”

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    altima
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    There are many great suggestions given above.

    I would also offer you to consider alternatives: what will you do if you give-up with the current business?

    Do you have any other plans what to do beside have a time for family?

    Let me put an example – you can start or join to another business, where your time commitments will be much less, while the reward is comparable or higher.

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    Hi

    Some times you can’t see the forest for the trees. Maybe instead of closing your doors, have a holiday away from your business. Either go on a real holiday or just close down for a week or two and stay at home in peace. (Make sure you don’t touch anything business during your break – let everyone think you are away and unavailable )

    Then after your break decide do you want to keep going?

    Can you make this all work better for your family?

    Can you get someone else to help?

    Can you be free up some time by doing things differently?

    Its amazing how a good break away from your work lets you think clearer.

    If you still want to close after break, have a think about the alternatives and what will you do instead before you make any decisions. Never act in haste when you are tired.

    Hope this helps and I’m so sorry to hear about your friend.

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    Hi Tiamaria

    I’m sorry for your loss. You are fortunate to have friends and family around you to support you through this difficult time.

    If and when you’re ready, send me a PM with your website URL.

    I’m asking because perhaps the problem isn’t the ranking (fantastic job on getting to first page!!! Big effort!), rather the conversion. By that I mean how many people come to your site and how many stay to buy or opt-in.

    If those numbers are very very low, then perhaps simple tweaks on the page or site will help you get more customers and start rewarding you for the massive effort you’ve put in.

    Send me a PM if you want to explore this further. After you have the break Allied suggested. It’s great advice. Especially after reading Mumnesia’s post too. You won’t stay sad forever – life is too glorious!

    Whatever you choose, what you do for income has to be in-line with your real priorities. Tried it the other way – it’s soul destroying. You deserve better.

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    Hi Tiamaria

    I tried online selling whilst having a spell at home.

    I found Lisa Suttora’s http://www.whatdoisell.com advice really helped me. Lisa works with sellers from online sites like ebay and all manner of online merchants.

    Her approach is holistic and she preaches looking after yourself as well as grow your business.

    Might not be for you but you might get something from her mentor style.

    All the best. It’s really hard juggling it all I hope you find something that works for you.

    Deb

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